Blog 2066 – 05.22.2021
D Day or Rather W Day Has Arrived
Demarcation Day, it is that, but Wedding Day even more, has arrived at last for Lauren and Jay. It is a big, big day for the both of them and all of us who know and love them. There are many special days in our lives. As important as graduation days are, we have to share the spotlight with others on those occasions, but birthdays, weddings, and yes funerals we get to star in. Between the happy birthday and the sadder funeral, where we are in most cases a one man or one woman show, if we are most fortunate there is one big wedding scene that we get to co-star in.
Last night at the wedding rehearsal of today’s wedding I got to see Jay, my handsome son, and Lauren, his beautiful bride, practice their wedding procession, recession and vows with their respective “I Do Crews.” Even an almost tropical storm threatening cannot put a damper on this affair.
In all the pomp, circumstance, and seriousness of the practiced ceremony there were moments of laughter and levity too. A particular favorite of mine was when the wedding coordinator explained to the matron of honor that she might have to help the bride untwist the train of her gown when she turns with the groom to descend the couple of stairs as the two of them make their grand exit down the center aisle. She said, and I quote, “You might have to act as a Fluffer, you know fluff her dress.” The bride and her posse were straight faced, and I was proud of my son, who barely blinked, but his best man and the other groomsmen were obviously affected by her word choice as were the wife, and fiancées of the broken up guys who were sitting behind us. I turned to the giggling girls and said quietly, “Church folks, you gotta love them.” and I do, having long been one myself. I still attend church regularly, every time there is an important wedding or funeral to attend.
Before you judge me too harshly, let me share a quote that I saw and liked, “Being in a church no more makes you a Christian than being in a garage makes you a car.” Dressing up like a bride and groom does not make you a married couple either, that takes years of love and work. I believe with all my heart that these two wonderful young people have within them what it takes to make a wonderful marriage and I will be sitting in the front row on the right side of the aisle with my lovely bride Linda and our mother Betty cheering Jay and Lauren on as will Judy and David, the mother and father of the bride, and a crowd of witnesses there to mark the start of their lives together as man and wife on the most special day of their lives, a big one in ours too.
Your friend and fellow traveler,
We’ve Only Just Begun