What We See In Others

Blog 1260 – 02.20.2019

What We See In Others

Most of you have probably heard and usually not in a kind way the expression, “It is all about you.” Well I believe it to be true if not exactly in the way that people who are upset with us usually mean it. When we look at others we see ourselves in one of two ways most of the time. We either see one of our blind spots and this can usually be told by how angrily we view that image or we see what we recognize and love about ourselves and are drawn closer to them for it. You have a simple way of seeing things don’t you, Crazy Dave? Yes, I do but I have not always seen the simple things so clearly.

The first time I read the Apostle Paul’s words, “Thou, O man, who judges another are guilty of the same offense” I thought, that sounds pretty crazy Paul, but the more I thought about it and the more I observed the behavior of others and myself I had to admit – spot on, brother Paul. Whenever I hear anyone say, “I can abide anything but a liar, I make a mental note: That person has a problem telling the truth. You see we all tell it wrong from time to time but the person who has a big problem with liars is a liar, thieves, is a thief, fornicators is a fornicator, hypocrites is a hypocrite, in mind if not in actual practice. One more Bible thought for you New Testament fans, all have sinned and come short of the glory of God that it might be all about grace. Amazing Grace, what a woman! Just had to throw that line in.

Grace reveals the ability to see that what disturbs and perturbs us about others is a problem we have with seeing something and accepting it in ourself and at the same time the things we admire and wish we were more like in others are also the things that we have difficulty seeing in ourself too but they are there as well or we would not recognize them in others. Another great line is “we see as in a mirror darkly but then we shall see face to face.” The people and things in our lives are mirrors reflecting back at us images of ourself. Which is why we should love everyone and everything for it is all us. Not loving ourself is the only problem we are here to work on and when we have got that one resolved, loving God, everyone, and everything is easy peasey.

Look at the person you love most in your life – mother, father, brother, sister, friend, lover. What is it you see in them that causes you to love them so much? I have mentioned it before but am not afraid of repeating myself, one of my favorite scenes in the book and both movie versions of True Grit is when Rooster Cogburn looks out at defiant Mattie Ross as she on her faithful pony Little Blackie is swimming the river crossing being forbidden access to the ferry boat as Marshall Cogburn and Texas Ranger LaBeouf did not think a young girl was up to bringing in the criminal Chaney who had shot her father and a Texas Congressman. Rooster looks out at the young girl’s courage and determination and says, “God, but she reminds me of me.” Truer words were never spoken. It really is all about you and all about me. We are here to learn how to love ourselves all over again. We have learned this lesson over and over again probably through countless lifetimes and adventures.

One of my all time favorite authors C.S. Lewis wrote many wonderful books, the most autobiographical is called “Surprised By Joy.” There is a New Testament phrase that particularly captivates me. It is, “the exceeding weight of glory.” I think it refers to finally realizing Who and Whose we truly are. That is some often surprising, joyful, and pretty heavy stuff. Look long into those mirrors reflecting back at you. Smile you’re on Candid Camera.

Your friend and fellow traveler,

David White

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