Blog 2166 – 09.21.2021
The Trouble With Only Selective Friendships
The trouble with choosing to associate only with friends who look, think, and act like us is that we really begin to think they are the only real people in the world and that the others are just that “others” and nothing to us. Disney’s Native American Princes sang, “You think the only people who are the people who look and think like you … but I know every rock and tree and creature has a life, has a spirit, has a name.” I actually took two lines from different stanzas. The True Artist in us longs to teach us to paint with all the colors of the wind.
I heard a grown man actually say out loud yesterday trying to explain a completely untenable position that he thought gay and lesbian, L,G,B,T,Q, people actually choose to be different because it is easier. I was astounded by that remark for two reasons: First because I do not believe we choose our sexual orientation and secondly that if even if we did there are far easier choices. The man’s flawed reasoning was that men and women are so different and relationships between them so hard to maintain that it would be easier to get along with someone who thought and acted like us. I tried to explain that just because most men and women chose to think mainly from a different side of our brains it does not mean that we are not capable of thinking out of both sides of our brains. Men can think like women and women can think like men. What is typically referred to as maleness or femaleness has a lot more do do with our thinking than with our at birth assigned genitalia. The man said to the two-sided brain thinking remark that most people choose just not to think. On that one point we agreed, little else.
In closing, I quote again a favorite line from a favorite song from the movie La La Land, The Fools Who Dream:
She told me
“A bit of madness is key,
To give us new colors to see.
Who knows where it will lead us?
But, that’s why they need us”
Your friend and fellow traveler,
All That We Let In