Blog 857 – 12.28.2017

We Are Not Here To Fulfill Other People’s Expectations

In case you have not figured it out already, I write for me. If someone else finds something in my words that speaks to them that is fine, but I do not write to preach to or to please others, only me. As an almost lifelong “people pleaser” it has been quite an awakening to me that not only am I deserving of my own love and respect but that in the end no one else’s really matters. If all the world loved you and yet you still did not love yourself you would still be that lost little child inside.

That hungry and hurt little child within us has often given up on winning our affections and instead concentrates on manipulating others into being “all in all.” If you see yourself in this piece don’t get mad at me. Remember I write for me. I preach to the choir and I am the choir but many of us have suffered long and hard with lack of self-love and lack of self-esteem issues. And that terrible problem manifests itself in a “neediness” for the love and acceptance of others that makes us quite unattractive and loathing of ourselves even more.

Want some relief? Try this. Look in the mirror and say, “I am sorry, Baby, for not loving you and treating you the way I always should have but from this moment on – I am gonna love you like nobody’s loved you come rain or come shine.” My life is full of love songs and for a long time I have believed that every true love song was either Love(God) singing to us or us singing to Love(God) but I have come to believe and just lately that every true and beautiful love song is a lullaby, a love song to Baby. My inner child answers to that name. Does yours? If not ask your inner child his or her name and start singing to her.

No body can love you for you and you can trust me, rather you can trust yourself, nobody can love you like you. To paraphrase the wonderful song by Lou Rawls, “You’ll never find as long as you live some one to love you tender like only you can do.”

How about it, Baby? Did we say it right? Oh, and one of the great benefits of finding and being “The great love of your life” is that it frees you up to truly loves others. And not in a barter kind of way- “I will love you if you love me back, or you go first,” but an extension of that “I’m gonna love you like nobody’s loved you come rain or come shine” that you find yourself full of and overflowing with. And what a popular and in demand guy or gal that is going to make you.

Your friend and fellow traveler,

First taking care of Baby,

David White