Blog 846 – 12.17.2017

A Smart Girl Knows How To Get A Man (Also knows she doesn’t need one)

I love all things Marilyn and this picture of her with a Canadian Royal Mounted Policeman recalls their motto: “Always get their man.” I spun that a little thinking of her for today’s blog title. It is a myth of the highest order that a woman needs a man or a man a woman to be healthy, happy, and whole. Those three things are to be found only in yourself and to lay the responsibility for them on anyone else is an unbearable burden for you or them to carry and can only end in tragic disappointment.

A smart girl or boy knows to look within to find satisfaction, completion. Co-dependency is a psychologically diagnosed disorder of the mind. It is pushed by romance novels and movies as not only normal but the ideal. It is not, far from it. Boys and girls should be taught from birth that they are magnificent complete beings. Why are they not? Well, because the chain of “brokenness” goes way back to one of the oldest stories about the relationship between a man and a woman. Some really tragic misunderstandings come from a misreading, and misinterpretation of that almost certainly mythical story. Oh, and it is a great story with a talking serpent, treachery, deceit, and even angels with flaming swords which were more likely flashlights with the long illuminated cones like they use at the airport for directing the planes up to the gates. Those angels were less likely placed there to keep the man and woman out of paradise than to try desperately to stop them from leaving or to direct them back in. Men like to blame the whole misunderstanding on women but bare the responsibility for truly screwing up a good thing if there is any truth to the story at all.

Men have and still yet try to perpetuate the myth that a woman is nothing with out a man and women the reverse. Don’t get me wrong to keep the species alive there does need to be a certain amount of commerce between the two. But sex has far more important aspects that just making babies and was never intended for one set to corner or control the market. I am one for consensual and mutual cooperation. Men and women should get together and work things out, not from one in a position of power over the other but as equals, equally whole and complete individuals.

I read a eye opening remark yesterday, at least to me it was, that grown children should call their parents by their names not Mommy and Dad or any of the forms than mean the same thing – I am little, you are big. Likewise if you want to have an adult relationship with your adult children you need to quit being mommy and daddy and be their adult friends. The balance of power in adult relationships needs to be equal. People with inferiority complexes, and co-dependency issues might have a big problem with that. Time we start working on our issues and quit masking cultural anomalies as “normal” or “ideal” behaviors, and let love have its perfect way with us all.

A truly powerful person does not have to lord it over or look up to a another but can and does gratefully bow in recognition of the equal deity in another. Namaste to all.

Your friend and fellow traveler,

David White