Blog 265 – 04.04.2016

One of most important ways we can maintain a friendship is simply to agree to cease and desist trying to win every debate. It is quite natural to try to convince others to adopt our strongly held opinions but after a few heated discussions on a particular question we run the risk of damaging the friendship if we continue to press our case. Friendships for the most part are based on agreed interests. Yet I do not think for a moment that everyone must agree with us on everything to be our friend. I do think friends allow friends to have their own opinions, tastes, and beliefs.

People who practice “kinky” sex I am told usually have a “safe word” as a signal to the other that a boundary has been reached beyond which they do not consent to go. Friends should have such a safe word. I suggest these three “Enough”, “Let’s change the subject” or “None ya” to signify the subject being discussed or the question asked is off limits.

Friendships intimate and casual would benefit and stand a much better chance of lasting if each respected the others right and duty to think freely. Our freedom of speech should never limit another’s right to think for them self. If wars ever do cease if will be after the majority of people begin to practice The First Intention for a Better World. “I refrain from opposing or harming anyone. I allow others to have their own experiences. I see life in all things and honor it as if it were my own. I support life.”

Your friend and fellow traveler,
David White