Blog 1164 – 11.03.2018
Dust Yourself Off
I was listening to a great radio station driving through Missouri that was playing interesting folk music. I heard this wonderful refrain – “If you feel dusty on the shelf, like nobody loves you, love yourself.” I have this hunch that every time we experience one of those “nobody loves me” moments that we are being reminded that our number one job is to love ourself. Ego would have us believe that it is the height of evil to love self first but “Oh, Contrare, Sloughfoot.” Loving self is the first step to loving the Universe, all there is, everyone, and everything in it.
If I have discovered any great secret, any great truth, in this adventure of almost sixty-eight years it is this – my ability to love and to accept everybody, practice “that ole time religion,” is directly related to my ability to love and accept myself just as I am. It has been said, “Instead of trying to change the world change yourself.” Now that is a great quote that I can extrapolate into “Before you can love the world, love yourself.” Love accepts things and that changes things. Ego, that twisted thing inside us, would have us always getting it “Bass Act Wards.” He/she delights in nothing more than self-debasement, self-destruction, self-loathing. That is where so many religions, I think, get it wrong with that “for such a worm as I” blasphemy. And, yes, I picked that word carefully, you sensitive souls, for to devalue the self is utter and complete blasphemy, to debase, attempt to destroy, or to loath the child is to do the same to the parent. Fighting anyone or anything, even Ego is a losing battle. Only love always wins, makes once enemies friends.
I love the Motown sixties song that says, “If you can’t be with the one you love, Honey, love the one you’re with.” On one level it sounds like permission to not be monotonous, Freudian slip, I meant monogamous, but in a higher better sense I think it means “You are always with you – love yourself, and you will be a better lover to whomever else you might be with. I remarked to a jealous girl friend once as a young cocky lad, “Well, you would not want me, would you, if nobody else did?” My point exactly – if we do not love ourselves we cannot expect anyone else to act like they love us and if and when we learn to love ourselves it is the first step to loving everybody and everything.
I have purposed every time that I hear myself say that I hate someone or hate something to turn that around and say, “I do not hate anyone or anything but love everybody and everything. “What the world needs now is love sweet love. No not just for one but for (everything and) everyone.”
Your friend and fellow traveler,
That loving guy,