Blog 453 – 11.02.2016

I have shared my opinion before on this subject but few ideas are as dangerous and detrimental to self worth and self esteem as this idea of soul mates. Talk of better halves or fifty-fifty relationships speak to a fantasy that a person is only half a person till another person comes along to complete them. Utter nonsense as is the song lyric, “People who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” Co-dependency is a psychological disorder. A healthy personality is independent and self reliant.

Raising our children to be dependent upon someone else for their financial or emotional support is to raise diabled children. Even children with diabilities, physical, emotional, social whatever should be raised to have self esteem and self confidence. And how can you if you are taught to believe you are only half a man or woman.

Many silly and childish beliefs are perpetuated by fairytales like Snow White and Cinderella. Some day my prince will come or princess is to me just as silly as waiting around for your ship to come in. I have quoted the old MoTown song several times, “If you can’t be with the one you love, Honey, love the one you’re with. Love the one you’re with.” You are the one you are with twenty four seven from your first day of this wonderful adventure in time and space till the last. If you don’t love you why should anyone else? And if anyone else does not love you it is only because they don’t really know Who and Whose you are.

This whole concept of soul mate is ego’s trick to make you think you are not whole or complete in and of yourself. If you buy that line you will always be looking, always searching for that special something or that special someone to make you happy or to make you complete. I’d like to introduce you to someone, and no it is not me, thank God. Hey, you did not have to shout Amen so loud. I’ve got feelings too. The Special someone is you. You are Soul mate and Checkmate in this wonderful game called life. You are already complete straight from the factory no batteries or accessories required. Only you can make you happy. So don’t worry. Be happy. Accept no substitutes.

Your friend and fellow traveler,
David White