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Blog 486 – 12.05.2016
Is Your Life A Sad Love Song?

Many of the most beautiful love songs are sad. B.J. Thomas sings, “Hey, won’t you play another somebody done somebody wrong song.” And the country music genre is filled with with what I call “Tears in my beer songs.” One made famous by George Strait called ” Fool Hearted Memory” talks of a man who sits night after night at the same ole stool, playing the same ole song on the same ole juke box, and playing the same ole memory, the same ole song of a love gone wrong in his mind over and over again till he drinks himself into a stupor.

Many people get stuck in a loop in life. A loss, a tragic event, and especially an unrequited love seem hard to get over. I love the sad but comic line, “I’ll never get over ole what’s her name.” And we say things like that to ourselves, or rather ego does, all the time. But then he wants nothing more than for us to be and to stay miserable. Don’t you listen to that rascal. You can get over the loss of a loved one, a tragedy, and even an unrequited love. People do it every day and you must too if you want to receive all the best that life has for you.

But you don’t know how much it hurts? Don’t I? Doesn’t everyone who has lived a few years on this planet? But my child, my parent, my true love was special. Aren’t they all and none more special than you and the love and life you still have yet to live out.

Sometimes the sad love songs take us captive and we forget how audacious it is to love all out and to risk such devastation when it is not returned or the one we love graduates from this life before we do. But by all means give love and yourself another chance. We have all experienced the line a young poet wrote once. “I thought I would die but I didn’t.” He lived to hunt and to love again. So can you, my friend.

If your life has become like a sad love song. It is time for a new song, a new record, a new personal best. Open up your heart real big, your eyes, and your arms and rest assured that if you let yourself you will live and love again.It is natural to mourn a loss, perceived or real, but it is unnatural to sit at a monument to loss and grieve your life away. I wrote “perceived or real” because I believe that nothing real is ever loss but ours to enjoy forever.

Your friend and fellow traveler.
David White